Inequality Of Closeness.....
“Praveen, come-on we are not that close friends”, came the voice from the other side of the phone and I was quiet….. I was startled for a while. Some one so much important to me whom I counted on the tips as a very soul had said it. But, it was a statement that gave me the feeling of Eureka!!!
How often do we expect something from someone and when we do not get the same in return we go sad… If at all we knew the truth lying beneath the statement above. We all are linked with each other with a mesh of love, with a mesh of care…. There is a two way road between any two souls…. both ways love flows as a traffic… and some times the traffic is not the same both ways.. ie: to-and-fro….. and this I feel is the reason for we getting hurt.
You know the reason I felt an Eureka feel after I talked to this person I mentioned above because I believe it’s the truth of all the relationships.
I often meet people with broken soul… crying for the lost love and asking them selves and sometimes even me…. “Why me??” …… “I love him so much” …. “How could she forget me” …and all that one could say with a bleeding soul…..
If at all they could acknowledge the fact that it’s never possible that the other person has to love or care for us equally the way we do. Therefore, in the cases when one feels hurt, there is a sense of maturity needed so that he or she can understand that," hey.. its simple the other guy does not care for me as much I do for him… or may be I am not as important to him as he is to me"….. Well, isn’t that quite simple equation…. You don’t expect, you don’t get hurt….. One need’s to have the capacity to give and love unconditionally sometimes…. And if you don’t have that, its better to pull up and wait till the time the Love and care traffic on both the pathways equalize and one does not get hurt.
“While each one of us plays with our own versions of reality. The truth slips away”… I got this sms from the same person who gave the statement that generated the content of this article….. This was such an amazing thought … giving a deep thought to it and trying to elaborate it I understood that we truly live in our own worlds of reality…. No two folks in this world have the same perception of the events and draw their own conclusion, and in the mean time the “true truth” just slips away… without any of us being able to capture the actual “true-truth”.
How often do we expect something from someone and when we do not get the same in return we go sad… If at all we knew the truth lying beneath the statement above. We all are linked with each other with a mesh of love, with a mesh of care…. There is a two way road between any two souls…. both ways love flows as a traffic… and some times the traffic is not the same both ways.. ie: to-and-fro….. and this I feel is the reason for we getting hurt.
You know the reason I felt an Eureka feel after I talked to this person I mentioned above because I believe it’s the truth of all the relationships.
I often meet people with broken soul… crying for the lost love and asking them selves and sometimes even me…. “Why me??” …… “I love him so much” …. “How could she forget me” …and all that one could say with a bleeding soul…..
If at all they could acknowledge the fact that it’s never possible that the other person has to love or care for us equally the way we do. Therefore, in the cases when one feels hurt, there is a sense of maturity needed so that he or she can understand that," hey.. its simple the other guy does not care for me as much I do for him… or may be I am not as important to him as he is to me"….. Well, isn’t that quite simple equation…. You don’t expect, you don’t get hurt….. One need’s to have the capacity to give and love unconditionally sometimes…. And if you don’t have that, its better to pull up and wait till the time the Love and care traffic on both the pathways equalize and one does not get hurt.
“While each one of us plays with our own versions of reality. The truth slips away”… I got this sms from the same person who gave the statement that generated the content of this article….. This was such an amazing thought … giving a deep thought to it and trying to elaborate it I understood that we truly live in our own worlds of reality…. No two folks in this world have the same perception of the events and draw their own conclusion, and in the mean time the “true truth” just slips away… without any of us being able to capture the actual “true-truth”.
posted by Unknown at 10:35 AM
2 Comments:
Praveen ,
You are absolutely right saying that the traffic of Love and Care is not the same from both sides and i think it can never be the same no matter how hard you try to achieve that... This is my personal thinking that it always hurts when u expect something from someone and u never get it ....Its better not to have any expectations from anyone
There are times when someone is "world to you and you just a stranger to him or her.
I was talking to one of my friend few days back and I said to him …It’s the time that decide who is special to you and who is no one to you. I quoted him the example saying that when were at school we were best of friends then when we moved to college someone else became our best friends when u came back we again became best friends.
This is becos each individual have "priority" that he has set for himself for a given time and u may or u may be not falling at the highest priority for him or her at that time.
Ramit Sir,
Absolutely... wonderful.
That's true.
take care and I hope u get someone who has the same traffic as u .... lolz
Praveen
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