Amputated Love
Accepting that the love is gone can never be an easy thing for anyone to accept. Can anyone who’s limbs have been amputated ever accept easily that his limbs are gone. When he looks at the gone body part, all that he thinks of is the beautiful life he had with that hand or leg etc. But, he seldom thinks about the fact that the part is gone, only the beautiful memories trap him each moment.
This traps us in such a way that even in the absence of the part we still continue to live with it. The acceptance never comes and the life gets worse as the memories never get us close to the reality and we never start mending our life and life style to get used to the new phase of life that God had planned for us.
This situation is no different when one loses the one he loves so much, may be more than his own self. Very few of us find true love in our lives. It’s probably a blessing to get the one you love, to love you in return as well. And when you get someone like that and one fine day when life makes you depart from the beloved, you are left with nothing else but just grief and memories of the moments with the one, that was nothing less or more than your own self. If given a choice, you can perhaps even trade your life for the one you loved. These are no exaggerations in love, and one has never been able to explain this to one’s own self.
But, the truth is that when we are in love, every small or minutest of the things looks more beautiful than what it actually is, because love gives a purity and beauty to one’s soul which makes the surrounding lovelier than what it actually is. And in the absence of the same love when the emptiness is in the soul, it in the same manner, takes the emptiness out and spreads the same in the outside world as well. Even in the best of the external world, nothing looks good and we still want it to be that ways. The very emptiness and grief with in, takes over to give everything outside a curtain of ugliness.
I wonder, “is love always just about getting the beloved”? Is not separation also as pure and complete Love as the association is? It very much is. Just that we need to be a bit more generous to our selves in that moment.
No doubt we loved because it felt bliss. We never ever thought or wanted to accept the fact that some day the love can leave us stranded, lonely on this road of life, with whom once we had thought of spending the whole life with. But, do we have an option? Sometimes we do and sometimes we don’t. In the cases where we have, I guess the true lovers do their best to be one undoubtedly, an that’s the way it should be. But, in the other case, when in spite of all the options when the ones have to depart, its not that we dint try, but its just that this is the way it had to be.
In life sometimes the best thing to do is to Accept. Acceptance in itself can be a beauty, because it’s not about a compromise that you made, but may be because you gave way to something more beautiful and better that was waiting for you. A new ray of light comes because we accepted that it was dark in there. May be the next ray of light can never be as bright as this one that we lost here, but it can never be said what it could be like. Who knows the next ray of hope or light has something better in store.
Moving on in life is not a cheating done on the one we loved. Also, smiling even after he has left is not a wrong thing to do. May be this is how God had planned things to be. And as all of us know that we all fall in love without ever accepting that this can end. So, somewhere when it ends we need to accept the same as this is how things had to be.
We always probably ask ourselves this question to ourselves in such moments- “Why, why me? What did I do to deserve this?” Just like when we start the novel we don’t know what is the end of it, just the author knows, similarly the author of our life, God surely knows what is next for us.
Lets give the author a chance and freely accept what the next chapter of the novel is. Whether or not the next chapter is beautiful depends on the way we look at it. Let the tears come and go, let the smiles come and go, but lets not stop in moving on in life. Let’s take pride in what life had to offer us. We are lucky that we felt what love is so deeply. Now lets not miss on the other beauties of life by trying to live in the fallacy that the past is still there, when it has already gone.
Well, to cut things short. Life is small, the moments are even smaller. The choice we make is just with us. To smile or frown at the memories is up to us. Lets smile the pain in the memories away and live the memories with smiles, as love is the name of bliss and not tears :)
Just like the novel gets more interesting as the novels ascends, similarly the next chapter has some more smiles, some more tears, some more love in it. Lets move, lets love, lets live , lets smile. Because that is what life is about… It moves on .. yes.. it moves on :)
This traps us in such a way that even in the absence of the part we still continue to live with it. The acceptance never comes and the life gets worse as the memories never get us close to the reality and we never start mending our life and life style to get used to the new phase of life that God had planned for us.
This situation is no different when one loses the one he loves so much, may be more than his own self. Very few of us find true love in our lives. It’s probably a blessing to get the one you love, to love you in return as well. And when you get someone like that and one fine day when life makes you depart from the beloved, you are left with nothing else but just grief and memories of the moments with the one, that was nothing less or more than your own self. If given a choice, you can perhaps even trade your life for the one you loved. These are no exaggerations in love, and one has never been able to explain this to one’s own self.
But, the truth is that when we are in love, every small or minutest of the things looks more beautiful than what it actually is, because love gives a purity and beauty to one’s soul which makes the surrounding lovelier than what it actually is. And in the absence of the same love when the emptiness is in the soul, it in the same manner, takes the emptiness out and spreads the same in the outside world as well. Even in the best of the external world, nothing looks good and we still want it to be that ways. The very emptiness and grief with in, takes over to give everything outside a curtain of ugliness.
I wonder, “is love always just about getting the beloved”? Is not separation also as pure and complete Love as the association is? It very much is. Just that we need to be a bit more generous to our selves in that moment.
No doubt we loved because it felt bliss. We never ever thought or wanted to accept the fact that some day the love can leave us stranded, lonely on this road of life, with whom once we had thought of spending the whole life with. But, do we have an option? Sometimes we do and sometimes we don’t. In the cases where we have, I guess the true lovers do their best to be one undoubtedly, an that’s the way it should be. But, in the other case, when in spite of all the options when the ones have to depart, its not that we dint try, but its just that this is the way it had to be.
In life sometimes the best thing to do is to Accept. Acceptance in itself can be a beauty, because it’s not about a compromise that you made, but may be because you gave way to something more beautiful and better that was waiting for you. A new ray of light comes because we accepted that it was dark in there. May be the next ray of light can never be as bright as this one that we lost here, but it can never be said what it could be like. Who knows the next ray of hope or light has something better in store.
Moving on in life is not a cheating done on the one we loved. Also, smiling even after he has left is not a wrong thing to do. May be this is how God had planned things to be. And as all of us know that we all fall in love without ever accepting that this can end. So, somewhere when it ends we need to accept the same as this is how things had to be.
We always probably ask ourselves this question to ourselves in such moments- “Why, why me? What did I do to deserve this?” Just like when we start the novel we don’t know what is the end of it, just the author knows, similarly the author of our life, God surely knows what is next for us.
Lets give the author a chance and freely accept what the next chapter of the novel is. Whether or not the next chapter is beautiful depends on the way we look at it. Let the tears come and go, let the smiles come and go, but lets not stop in moving on in life. Let’s take pride in what life had to offer us. We are lucky that we felt what love is so deeply. Now lets not miss on the other beauties of life by trying to live in the fallacy that the past is still there, when it has already gone.
Well, to cut things short. Life is small, the moments are even smaller. The choice we make is just with us. To smile or frown at the memories is up to us. Lets smile the pain in the memories away and live the memories with smiles, as love is the name of bliss and not tears :)
Just like the novel gets more interesting as the novels ascends, similarly the next chapter has some more smiles, some more tears, some more love in it. Lets move, lets love, lets live , lets smile. Because that is what life is about… It moves on .. yes.. it moves on :)
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